#technology, hylery

Is technology killing our family life?

Do we spend more time on technology than engaging with our kids?

The last few weeks I’ve picked up that our son is in his own way, yet subtle, demanding more engagement with me. I guess it could be any number of things contributing to this. Reflecting though, and looking around us at home there was one major, you can’t miss it, sign. Continue reading “Is technology killing our family life?”

Mother's Day

Mother’s Day and being adopted

Mother's Day and being adoptedWith Mother’s Day just gone by, this time Darren was asked again by our son about his birth mother during his classes Mother’s Day “Spoil Mom” session.
We’ve agreed to always answer truthfully but age appropriate, that said, every time the question is asked one can’t help but feel a little pain. Natural I am sure.

Continue reading “Mother’s Day and being adopted”

hylery, Parenting, SchoolBreak, Two Oceans Marathon

Our Two Oceans Break…

Two OceansOver the last two years, since becoming more active on the road either cycling, running or swimming, hubby and I have tried to turn our trips to “out-of-town” races into the family breakaway. This year we’ve managed a break per quarter of 2017, taking our current life position, I’m thrilled we’ve managed Continue reading “Our Two Oceans Break…”

Adoption, Age 3, Parenting

Gay Couple Adopting – The Mommy Question


Gay Couple Adopting - The Mommy Question

When hubby and I made the decision to embark on our adoption journey, we knew very well that at some point our new family would be asked the question ” Where’s mommy?”

We knew that the question would come from different sources.

As much as you think you will be ready for when the question pops up, from my personal experience I don’t think you will ever really be ready for it.

The question pulls at your heart.

Although the question is asked with no malice, usually, I felt at the time… Continue reading “Gay Couple Adopting – The Mommy Question”

Education, Swim

Why we chose Swimming lessons over Judo..

Why we chose Swimming lessons over Judo..We’re into week 3 of school this year and that means the start of the extramural activities. Last year our young man participated in KidiSports as we wanted him to be participating in an activity that would benefit his whole body and mind.

Being new to the structured school system and parenting of a toddler, we weren’t too sure what activity to put him into. KidiSport seemed like the perfect fit. I still do believe it was the best decision last year.  Continue reading “Why we chose Swimming lessons over Judo..”

Child Behaviour, hylery, Parenting, School, Toddlers, Vaccination

When Kids Bite Their Mates

When Toddlers Bite

Yesterday hubby picked up our son and was informed that one of the other children in our son’s class decided to take a bite of our son! According to the teacher, they were all outside when the incident happened.

Like really!?

Last year we had a similar incident at the playschool. Both times as per feedback from the teachers, it was unsolicited.

Does my son give out some serious “bite me” pheromone? Continue reading “When Kids Bite Their Mates”

Adoption, Family, Legal, Parenting, Same Sex, Surrogacy

Pathway to Fatherhood, as a Gay man

Path to Gay ParentingYou’re a gay man.

You’re a gay couple.

You want to enter the world of fatherhood.

What are your options?

In South Africa, these are our options. Continue reading “Pathway to Fatherhood, as a Gay man”


PediaSure* for the picky eater!

PediaSure Complete

We received a delivery from PediaSure for our young man while back.

He loves surprises and when he saw what was in the box from PediaSure he was beyond excited. Why? Only because he now has his own shaker like his dads.

I had not heard about PediaSure until Continue reading “PediaSure* for the picky eater!”

Adoption, Adoption Phases, hylery

Gay Couple Adopting – The Paperwork

Adoption Paperwork

Something we may have forgotten to ask our social worker and she may have forgotten to expand with us, was what “Placement” or the trip where we meet our new family member is all about.

We were under the impression that when we went to fetch our son and brought him home, that the hard part was over and he was forever ours. Well not quite. How mistaken we were. It was only at this point that we also learnt that for the first 24 months, that we could receive a call from our Social Worker informing us that our son’s birth parents wanted to meet to see how their birth child was doing. By law, you can’t say no. Continue reading “Gay Couple Adopting – The Paperwork”

Beginnings, Experiences, Family, Father and Son, Parenting, Races, Work

The sports fanatic parent(s)….

Endurance Sport
Endurance Sport : Sourced online

Over the last 12 months I believe that I’ve morphed into a tad bit of an endurance wannabe athlete parent. A year ago, Continue reading “The sports fanatic parent(s)….”