Adoption, hylery, Love, Same Sex

World Adoption Day – Gay Dad Darren share’s his story

World Adoption Day
Our First World Adoption Day as a family 2014

Today 9th November 2016 is #WorldAdoptionDay celebrated worldwide, the wonderful blessing that adoption can be.

Adoption Statistics in South Africa based on a review of the Registry of Adoptable Children and Parents (RACAP) as at November 2013

  • 297 unmatched parents registered – 14 Black, 190 White and 43 Indian
  • Girls are preferred to Boys
  • 50 applicants would consider a child with special needs (HIV, Mental or Physical disabilities)
  • 29 possible parents for around 429 children registered on RACAP
  • 2013 only 1699 adoptions took place, down from 2840 in 2004

That said, today being World Adoption Day I thought I’d share with you our personal story. So here are Darren’s thoughts back in 2014…

The decision to adopt a baby was not our first option as we desperately wanted to father a child or two of our own. However having considered the exhaustive process as well as the reality that surrogacy would still not guarantee us a baby, we Continue reading “World Adoption Day – Gay Dad Darren share’s his story”

Family, Inspiration, Life, Love

We’re so “busy” …so full of excuses ….

We’re so busy with “life” that we “forget” that our parents are getting older..

Continue reading “We’re so “busy” …so full of excuses ….”

Birthday, Celebrations, Experiences, Family, Father and Son, Life, Love, Milestone

hAPpY BirThdAY Son

J and I 2015
J and I 2015

Dear J,

I still pinch myself to make sure that I’m not dreaming. I’m eternally grateful that you chose us to be your parents, and honoured that God has allowed us to share and celebrate another year of life with you.

Continue reading “hAPpY BirThdAY Son”

Family, hylery, Life, Love, Parenting

Is there a difference on who parents a child?

The Family
My Family

Our young man has three dads and a mom, yep you read that right…. This post was prompted following a recent incident in our lives.  Continue reading “Is there a difference on who parents a child?”

Cycling, Eating, Education, hylery, Kids Entertainment, Life, Love, Parenting, Toddlers, Weekend

Special Family Moments created..

Supporting local community police run
Supporting local community police run

Friday evening, my sister was in town for a Ladies Church Conference. So, we met for a quick meal at home, before I had to take her back to her hotel. Her visit was so short, Continue reading “Special Family Moments created..”

Celebrations, Education, Love, Parenting

What a cool dad!

Sourced: online
Sourced: online

Continue reading “What a cool dad!”

Celebrations, Love

Happy 3rd Anniversary …


Happy Anniversary anjo ...
Happy Anniversary anjo …

Three years today we celebrate our union.

It’s been three years with so many blessings, and … Continue reading “Happy 3rd Anniversary …”

Anniversary, Celebrations, Father and Son, Father's Day, Love

Father’s Day 2015…

Father's Day
Father’s Day

What an awesome day today has started off. Three of us watching the sun rise, all snuggled up in bed.

Covered by our warm duvet, enjoying the warmth it provides. For a change we’re not rushing off, but just appreciating this day.

Three years now, our young man has blessed us with this wonderful day .. Father’s Day. Him choosing us to be his dads has been the richest blessing God could have shared with us.

Everyday, we’re taught patiences. Patience to appreciate each moment and not take it for granted.

Everyday, we’re taught tolerance. For what we assume as norm for us, could be new for someone else.

Everyday, we’re taught to laugh and smile. So often we’re busy “rushing” that we forget to appreciate the small things in life, passing through each day without a smile on our dial .. or sharing a laugh with those around us.

I’m extremely grateful for this amazing opportunity to be a dad.

To my own dad, I’m blessed to still have you around.

…Thank you for all that you do .. for at times I don’t thank you for it.

Thank you for teaching me, even when I seemed to not be listening ….

… Thank you for believing in me and pushing me to achieve more than I thought I could

To my late grandfather …

Thank you for raising such a strong daughter .. I have the honour of calling my mother!

You showed me that no matter how old one is, it is not too late to learn something new…

To my dad-in-law …

Thank you for raising an amazing man, my hubby and a wonderful dad to our son

You showed him how to love, and fight for what he believes in…

To you the man who is our boy’s biological father,

….Thank you for the wonderful blessing .. we have the honour of calling our son.

Happy Father’s Day!


Inspiration, Love, Mandela, Unite4Mandela

Update on the 67 Blankets …

UPDATE on ….

67 Blankets
67 Blankets

A while back I wrote about our offices getting together and knitting away as a team, so that we could create some blankets for the 67 Blankets for Nelson Mandela Day . If you don’t recall or didn’t read it .. you can move on over here to refresh and update yourself.

We managed to complete the blankets at the end of May and yesterday 10th of June, a colleague and I went on over to the area ambassador to drop them off.

Our Contribution towards the 67 Blankets for Nelson Mandela
Our Contribution towards the 67 Blankets for Nelson Mandela

Here is my colleague Kanitha and Christine the regional ambassador taking delivery. Something we learnt yesterday, is that these blankets will now all be tagged allowing us to then track them and see who they finally bless. How awesome is that! The 67 Blankets for Nelson Mandela Day is currently being updated, should be ready end of the month(June 2015) with all these new features! Simply exciting I tell you!

The next delivery of the blankets collected is planned for the 18th of July, Nelson Mandela Day, so plenty of time for you to go off and produce your creation! Remember that you don’t have to knit it, you can also crochet it and as we learnt yesterday, all they want is an end blanket that is handmade with love! Put on that creative hat you keep hidden away and help put a smile on someone less fortunates face!

I know some of my readers are across the globe, you too can make a difference! So venture on over to their website or their Facebook page and see how you too can make a difference?!

Have fun!


Birthday, Braai, Celebrations, Family, Father and Son, Love

A weekend of celebrations and family quality time



This past weekend we traveled to Swaziland for a bit of some chill time and spend some quality time with the family. The main reason though was to celebrate our dad’s 70th birthday with him. He had no idea it was happening!

We got to the border with Swaziland and I commented to hubby how clean it now looked on the Swazi side, and how impressed I was with the new ablution facilities. That they catered for the parent with child by having changing facilities as forward thinking on their part. Well that little bubble I’d created for myself was quickly blown. J wasn’t feeling well and before I knew it, I was covered in vomit! I wasn’t worried .. there were changing facilities now. How mistaken I was! As I open the door I’m met by a woman customs officer busy applying her makeup. Very quickly she tells me that those were staff facilities and not actually for changing nappies! We swapped a few words before she eventually left and I managed to clean J and myself up.

It was a weekend that our young man got to spend quality time with his cousins, getting to form a bond with them and his aunts, uncles and grandparents too. It was a packed weekend. Come Sunday it felt like we needed another couple of days to relax from all the activity.

During the weekend we also got to celebrate my BIL Ralph’s birthday as well. He is getting closer to them 40th mark. My sister planned a surprise breakfast for him and the family which went down really well. Simple is always great!

Before we knew it, we were saying our goodbyes and heading back to our home.


The place we stayed at Malandela’s B&B was a dream! One of the few places we’ve stayed at in the recent history that was really amazing! No usual hotel fuss .. very relaxed and the room was amazingly spacious!

Our young man loved the space to run around with his bike and not have to wear shoes either. The gardens were amazingly well manicured. It was lush green as far as you could see. How I miss this country. Life feels so simple and easy. Children can still be children, run around fairly safe in the gardens and not within the confines of an apartment.


As much as it has all this … and yes I do miss it at times .. it has its place as does my current location in my life. Hubby’s words ring true .. when we’re young we yearn to leave the mundane country lifestyle for one with lots of light and “life”. Both have its place in life and give to whom we eventually become as mature adults. Current home provides the “life” and “money”, while country living provides a more nurturing quality upbringing for children.


We’re back home now, J is back to not enjoying the drop off period again. Amazing that a short break from school took us a few steps backwards. He has half a term left for this year before he is on his long break. I think our nanny is going to love having him home. I sense at times she misses having him around the house.

I have to sort out a theme for young man’s birthday coming up as well. Along with what it will require to pull it off. We’re thinking this year he is going to have it at school. Like they say, the first birthday is actually for the parents. This year he hasn’t really made serious friends, so having it at school seems to make logical sense for now.

My colleague Kanitha suggested having a post school tea for his playground mates as well. I’ve taken this under advisement, but really does seem like a great idea. Have to think more and see if what we decide to finally go with will make sense. I think I need to visit the China Mall in the coming week.

Here are a few more pic from the weekend of fun in the sun!

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