Education, Swim

Why we chose Swimming lessons over Judo..

Why we chose Swimming lessons over Judo..We’re into week 3 of school this year and that means the start of the extramural activities. Last year our young man participated in KidiSports as we wanted him to be participating in an activity that would benefit his whole body and mind.

Being new to the structured school system and parenting of a toddler, we weren’t too sure what activity to put him into. KidiSport seemed like the perfect fit. I still do believe it was the best decision last year.  Continue reading “Why we chose Swimming lessons over Judo..”

Education, Experiences, Family, hylery, Mother's Day, Parenting, Same Sex

Two dads.. and Mother’s day at school …

Beach Time
Beach Time

Yesterday we received this terms first newsletter from J’s school, letting the parents know of the different activities planned for the term.

One of the items mentioned was the school’s planned Mother’s Day Continue reading “Two dads.. and Mother’s day at school …”

Beginnings, Education, Experiences, Family, Parenting, School, SchoolBreak

BAcK to schooL

Back to School
Back to School

Term 2 started yesterday and I say that with a sigh of relief … not just for me but I think too for our young man! Last week he was already asking Continue reading “BAcK to schooL”

Age 3, Education, Family, Parenting, Tantrums, Toddlers

Our son .. and his fake crying!

SONY DSCThe young man has developed a rather annoying habit, if he doesn’t get his way … then it’s all tears that get switched on and off so quickly, Continue reading “Our son .. and his fake crying!”

Age 3, Beginnings, Education, Father and Son, Firsts, Growth Phase, Milestone, Parenting

Dear Son….

My World
My World

How quickly life seems to be passing us by. It feels like it was just yesterday we brought you home. It feels like it was just yesterday that your dad and I would take turns getting up in the middle of the night to make sure that you were fine, or Continue reading “Dear Son….”

Cycling, Eating, Education, hylery, Kids Entertainment, Life, Love, Parenting, Toddlers, Weekend

Special Family Moments created..

Supporting local community police run
Supporting local community police run

Friday evening, my sister was in town for a Ladies Church Conference. So, we met for a quick meal at home, before I had to take her back to her hotel. Her visit was so short, Continue reading “Special Family Moments created..”

Celebrations, Education, Love, Parenting

What a cool dad!

Sourced: online
Sourced: online

Continue reading “What a cool dad!”

Education, Family, Firsts, hylery, Kids Entertainment, School

Throwback Thursday

Instason warming up
Instason warming up
Kids having fun
Kids having fun

What can I say, our weekends are just so, so full at the moment. Continue reading “Throwback Thursday”

Adoption, Education, Experiences, Social Media

Facebook has changed adoption for us …

Missing Piece - sourced online
Missing Piece – sourced online

Over the last week or so, my Facebook page has more than once popped this article about how Facebook has changed adoption for everoriginally posted by the Guardian back on the 19th June 2010.

It covers a subject that I know both hubby and I are well aware of and that we will have to deal with at some point with our young man. It shares a reality, that I think many adoptive parents like us may or may have not thought of. Until social media platforms like Facebook became available, the process of reconnecting with your biological family as an adoptee was strictly managed by social workers. No malicious intentions, but more for the protection of both families. It’s has all changed now.

As humans we’re naturally curious beings. We’re never all satisfied with the “status quo”, we want to know more and understand why. The curiosity isn’t always from the child but from the biological parent(s) too. They have been known to want to find out where their biological child is, who they have become etc. It is all very normal, I believe. How you go about it, like the article mentions, is what is extremely important. It isn’t just two or three lives that are affected but many more if the process isn’t carefully managed.

Quote from Michael Ohers mom - sourced online
Quote from Michael Ohers mom – sourced online

For open adoptions, you will find that at least one biological parent is aware of who the adoptive parents are. They may receive regular updates, either from the adoptive parents directly or via the social worker. When the appropriate time comes, a meeting can be arranged for a reunions .. at least that’s what I’ve become familiar with.

With closed adoptions, the day the child is placed with the adoptive parents, the biological parents can request for regular updates for the next 24 months and even request to see the child within this period. These meetings are however all supervised by the social worker.

Social Media has now changed all this, whether we want to believe it or not .. it has. When we reach our teenage years we begin our search to find out who we are as individuals. Access to social media has made it all so easy. You know how you are when you first meet someone new, be it for business or pleasure, you search for them on the various social media platforms to see if you can find out more about them. It isn’t surprising that adopted children / biological parents, then seek to use the same platform to attempt to discover their biological family.

Personally, I don’t think we can avoid this scenario playing out. However, through an open relationship with your child and open conversations with them you can address these hurdles as they come. Allowing you to manage, to a point, these needs carefully along with the emotions that come with it. That said, not everyone follows through with their curiosity. For many it’s a “high-level” kind of curious, not something they would like to follow through to the point of making actual contact.

A quote from Faith Hill - sourced online
A quote from Faith Hill – sourced online

Whichever way our young man decides to follow, he will have our support. We can’t stop him from finding out more about his roots, but we can guide and be with him through that journey should he ever decide to embark on it. He will be made aware that it can be both a positive or a negative experience at the time, and that he should be mature enough to deal with either outcome.

We can protect him from getting hurt for so long.

It will also be a very emotional period for both hubby and I, should it happen, but one we can’t avoid but be supportive of our young man.

HKL

Education, Exhibition, Family, hylery, Parenting, SchoolBreak, Weekend

He’s an adrenaline junkie … he is!

#iceageSA
#iceageSA

What a weekend full of activity we had! I really didn’t think we would do all that .. furthermore that our young man would be enthralled by it all.

School is on mid-term break so the question was .. is what do we do with him so he doesn’t get bored? So last week I shared some of the activities taking place in our city that could keep your toddler entertained over the next week.

Saturday morning, we let our young man know what we were going to the #IceAgeExhibition. I’ve not seem him so happy in like …well ..ever! He kept asking all the way to the Sandton Convention if we were really going.

We arrived and he was loving the experience. Taking in his surroundings like only a child can.

He was taking in all the “creatures” around him and calling them out by similar names to what he knows in his world.He was initially taken by surprise when the one of the speakers blasted out the sounds the animal would make. He held onto my hand so tight .. it was too special a moment.

He wasn’t keen on the blizzard though, and screamed and kicked that we get him out of that tunnel. Maybe next time he will be fine… but I still don’t understand why though ….his reaction to water.

Done experiencing our past and the educational phase of our outing it was time for some some. Hubby went and purchased some tickets for a few activities we thought he would appreciate. While we waited we decided to spend some time in the sand pit.

Just look at that grin .. he was having a ball of a time! We waited in the queue to have his face painted as a tiger, but once we got to the front he wasn’t keen on the idea anymore. 😦 Fortunately, the kind lady doing all the magnificent work of face painting all the kids informed me that I could either come back later when he was ready or just go back to the paying booth and request a refund… What you say gurl? Was my first reaction. You for real? Yep she was. My hat off to the #IceAgeSA organisers! You totally understand this age group and that they will change their minds! I know it’s about making some profit, but just think about it .. I won’t spend R20 bucks on face painting .. but I may .. and did .. spend a whole R250 bucks on a sweater I may just not have done otherwise … you get my drift? Really hope of these events targeting children follow suit.

When we got to the slides, our young man could not contain the excitement. He didn’t want to wait for his turn .. he wanted to get on that rubber dingy and slide down. It was eventually our turn. We got in, I made sure he was snug and safe and we were off. I’m not really afraid of heights .. but these adrenaline slides aren’t activities I enthusiastically seek out either. Needlesstosay, if you were at the bottom of the ride watching my face .. I may have had the fear of hell look vs. one of “YAY .. I’m having fun” !

We got off and first thing little Mr. says to me is .. “AGAIN” … WHAT! Are you insane child!? was my first thought. I very promptly past the buck over to hubby .. and guess what .. he too had a very similar look on his face to me sliding down, while our young man had the biggest grin his face could muster out! Watching a few parent’s faces while I waited .. they all had the same look … while those smiling were on there for the second time and knew how much fun it was! Surprisingly, although many dads around .. it was mainly the mothers sliding down with the tods …hmmmm #justsaying

SA Guide Dog Association for the blind
SA Guide Dog Association for the blind

Sunday after a bit of a lay in .. we decided to go on over to The South African Guide Dogs Association for the Blind, as they were hosting their annual Winter Festival this past weekend.

Our young man was having all his senses tested this weekend! I think he enjoys that he is able to roam around and explore all these different elements making up his world.

The event itself was surprisingly well attended. Many of the guests, I would bet were locals – read that as living in the area. They had a beer garden – no outdoor event is complete without one – and a quaint tea garden as well, for those who felt they would rather have something warm.

Guests at the SA Guide Dogs Winter Market
Guests at the SA Guide Dogs Winter Market

There were stalls scattered around the winter yard, all selling beautiful handmade wares. Stalls with goodies for your four legged mates, a stall with fresh biltong(aka jerky), fresh brewed coffee and our son’s favourite, a stand selling freshly popped popcorn! For those young ones not bothered by food, the #SAGuideDogsAssociation had setup a littler area with a jumping castle and merry-go-round /carousel for them.

Dog Friendly Entertainment
Dog Friendly Entertainment

Besides all the stalls selling their wonderful goodies, the SA Guide Dogs Association for the blind had another surprise for us too. They had a few performing dogs come out onto the arena and show us wonderful tricks with their mistresses .. I don’t know if we still call lady masters .. masters?

Then it was the turn of the Guide Dog trainers to come out and educate the public a little bit more about their wonderful work with their four legged friends – labradors mostly.

It was incredible to learn that for the first 12 months they form a relationship with their surrogate family, before they are sent to the association for training. It’s six months of bonding with the trainer before the serious work starts. They eventually leave the association knowing how to for example, but not limited to these, cross a road with their blind human, open cupboard doors for their humans and to disobey their human for their own and the human’s safety.

The market was one of those days that you can enjoy as a family outdoors. Roam around the stalls and purchase stuff you don’t need but buy because it’s all for a great cause. The  best part for me is that the event takes place literally outside our doorstep, so that petrol saving can be invested further in this association and the amazing work they for those with sight challenges.

If you missed out this time round, don’t sweat it .. I believe there should be a summer one in a few months. Entrance was a meer R20 and the delicious food being sold was all so reasonably priced too.

It was an active weekend but oh so much fun!

HKL