Adoption, Age 3, Parenting

Gay Couple Adopting – The Mommy Question


Gay Couple Adopting - The Mommy Question

When hubby and I made the decision to embark on our adoption journey, we knew very well that at some point our new family would be asked the question ” Where’s mommy?”

We knew that the question would come from different sources.

As much as you think you will be ready for when the question pops up, from my personal experience I don’t think you will ever really be ready for it.

The question pulls at your heart.

Although the question is asked with no malice, usually, I felt at the time… Continue reading “Gay Couple Adopting – The Mommy Question”

Age 3, Education, Family, Parenting, Tantrums, Toddlers

Our son .. and his fake crying!

SONY DSCThe young man has developed a rather annoying habit, if he doesn’t get his way … then it’s all tears that get switched on and off so quickly, Continue reading “Our son .. and his fake crying!”

Age 3, Experiences, Family, Father and Son, Parenting

Beachtime with the family …

Beach Time
Beach Time

This past weekend I participated in the annual Midmar Mile event out in Howick. An event I’ve been keen to take part in for the longest time but just never got round to it, until now.

That we would travel all the way down to Howick for a day just didn’t make sense so, we turned it into a long week. Bonus is that Continue reading “Beachtime with the family …”

Age 3, Beginnings, School

New School .. New Friends … New Teacher .. Oh dear!

We survived day 1
We survived day 1

All during the school break we shared with our little boy how he was about to start at a new school this year. He learnt his new teacher’s name and would inform all that were keen to know what Continue reading “New School .. New Friends … New Teacher .. Oh dear!”

Age 3, Beginnings, Education, Father and Son, Firsts, Growth Phase, Milestone, Parenting

Dear Son….

My World
My World

How quickly life seems to be passing us by. It feels like it was just yesterday we brought you home. It feels like it was just yesterday that your dad and I would take turns getting up in the middle of the night to make sure that you were fine, or Continue reading “Dear Son….”

Age 2, Age 3, Child Support, Family, Father and Son, Growth Phase, Tantrums, Toddlers

Age 3 vs. Age 2 … where your children are concerned …


I’m sure as a parent you probably have heard about the “Terrible Twos” … that have evolved to the “Terrible Threes”.

When exactly do these periods start?

Are the terrible twos the year your child turns 1 and is living towards celebrating his 2nd birthday? Or is it the period between the age of 2 and 3? I ask the same of the so-called terrible threes….

The reason for my question is that the literature I read clearly describes some of my young man’s behaviour over the last 6 months, and he is neither 2 nor 3 as yet. I admit there have been a few such moments that hubby and I have looked at each other without the foggiest idea about how to handle the moment.

Just yesterday, JJ woke up and started crying for NO good reason. Everything we tried, just would not sooth him. He wasn’t hungry as he had finished his morning milk, neither did he want a biscuit. Everything we tried just wasn’t working. We’ve been to the shops too where he just started screaming and crying for no reason!

Hence my question when exactly is this “Terrible” period?

While surfing today I came across these 10 reasons why age 3 is worse than age 2, do you agree with them?

1. At two, they can barely talk. At three, they never shut the hell up.

2. At two, they cry. At three, they throw temper tantrums so epic, you become convinced that they are possessed by the devil.

3. At two, they’re happy to eat anything you present to them. At three, they eat only three foods (usually consisting of a starch and processed cheese.)

4. At two, baths are a ten minute event, the result of which is a clean child. At three, baths take over an hour, and result in a drenched bathroom, sopping wet parents and 16 used towels.

5. At two, they wear diapers that can be changed on your watch. At three, they’re potty trained and the world revolves around their bladders and bowels.

6. At two, they are distracted by any random coloured product at the grocery store. At three, they want to dictate your entire food list.

7. At two, they let you dress them, looking innocent and adorable. At three, they insist on picking out their clothes, looking like pint-sized versions of mental institution inhabitants.

8. At two, they don’t like to get dirty. At three, they thrive on it.

9. At two, you can do things for them, saving infinite amounts of time. At three, they must do everything by themselves, taking FOR-fucking-EVER.

10. At two, manipulation is the last thing on their minds. At three, they own you. And they know it.

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Have you experienced any of these? How did you handle it?

  1. Our young man is almost 2, he can’t yet utter coherently but babbles non-stop so can just imagine what the next few months will be like with him speaking properly!
  2. He isn’t yet two, hence my question again, but he can cry! He switches those tears on and off without any problem! JJ will go from crying tears with loud sound effects to smiling and laughing in seconds! What just happened there!?
  3. Yet another example .. place a plate of fried chips and nothing else in front of our young man, and he will polish the plate and ask for more! He isn’t yet 2!
  4. A month ago, he was in and out of the bath in a flash! The last month he insists on remaining in the empty bath until he is good and ready to be dried! Yes, I’ve drained the water to see if that encourages him to get out .. but NO! If we shower it’s no different, he refuses to exit the shower. I remind you he isn’t two yet.
  5. This still seems applicable as he is in between diapers and potty training.
  6. He insists that everything in the trolley shouldn’t be in there .. only he is permitted that luxury!
  7. This still see,s applicable, we’re still permitted to dress him and he is very accommodating.
  8. I’m sure JJ thinks he is three, he thrives in getting wet and dirty!
  9. Agree! There are some instances where this is very applicable in our home.
  10. I’m sure 2 above is related to 10 here? Those crocodile tears ….manipulation isn’t it?!

So when exactly is this age 2 & 3 applicable?